Thursday, October 10, 2013

The Mistress

Reading this reminds me of how pathetic you were. Consciously believing he loved you when it was obvious what he really wants from you. He even said it to your face, he never loved you! 

I dedicate this post to my friend who is so smart in all things but love. 

To all women out there, hurting because of their own stupidity, you always have a choice! Stop blaming other people for your mistakes and sadness. Respect yourself. Respect other people. Be kind. Love is everywhere. Happiness is abundant. Do not look so far, love the people who loves you. Care for those who care for you. Love is within your reach. Choose to be happy!

When a man has an affair with a woman who does not match his girlfriend or wife in terms of intelligence, accomplishment, and class, it is because he has no intention of replacing his girlfriend or wife with her. He has no intention of making a life with her. He has no intention of placing himself in the position to be her protector and provider. No matter how hot he is for her, he doesn’t respect her and has no intention of taking care of her. She exists to take care of his needs. To whatever extent his power and the seduction of pretending she is somehow superior to his girlfriend or wife feels good to her and seems to meet a need of hers; he does not, in fact, exist to serve her.

Does he really love you?
As Steve Harvey so beautifully says in Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.

When a man loves you he does three things:
A man in love with you professes his love for you, both to you and to others.
A man in love with you provides for you.
A man in love with you protects you.

When a man has an affair with you, he is in no position to profess his love for you to anyone outside the relationship because it puts him and his reputation at risk. He is in no position to provide for you either. Even if he buys you expensive gifts or sets you up in an apartment, you have no legal claim on this man. When he changes his mind about you or if he dies, you get nothing and you have no recourse to use your romantic tie to him to get anything.

Steve Harvey says that providing for his woman is “the very core of manhood.” As his mistress, your man isn’t free to express himself with you at his masculine best. This results in resentment towards you and contributes to his lack of respect for you.

When a man has an affair with you, he cannot protect you from those who will judge you once they know you are romantically linked to a man who has a girlfriend or worse, married. He isn’t in your life enough to protect you from the slings and arrows of life. He cannot protect you from people who mistreat you because to do so puts him at too much risk. When a married man has an affair with you, he puts you in harm’s way. This is why the movie, “Fatal Attraction,” terrified a generation of men. When the mistress put the cheating husband in harm’s way, she completely undermined his power in that relationship, in his marriage, and in the rest of his life.

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