Moving on....

Have you ever been in love?
Horrible isn't it?
It makes you so vulnerable.
It opens your chest and it opens up your heart
And it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.
You build up all these defenses,

You build up a whole suit of armor,
so that nothing can hurt you,
then one stupid person,
no different from any other stupid person,
wanders into your stupid life...
You give them a piece of you.
They didn't ask for it.
They did something dumb one day,
like kiss you or smile at you,
and then your life isn't your own anymore.
Love takes hostages.
It gets inside you.
It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness,
so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends'
turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart.
It hurts.
Not just in the imagination.
Not just in the mind.
It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain.
Don’t you hate it?

You can shed tears that he is gone,
or you can smile because he has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that he'll come back,
or you can open your eyes and see all he's left.
Your heart can be empty because you can't see him,
or you can be full of the love you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him only that he is gone,
or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind,
be empty and turn your back.
Or you can do what he is doing:
Smile.. 

Open your eyes..
Love again..
and move on.....

Relationships

Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fall in love. You anticipate their call and want their touch. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...because, it's happening to you.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened to you.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a while, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, their idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

You then will notice a difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, people may blame their other and look outside their relationship for fulfillment. People sometimes turn to work, church, a hobby, and of course, friendships.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside the relationship. It lies within. You can't say you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You probably could. And temporarily you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation again.

Because: The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

Sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your relationship work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your other) to succeed with your relationship... and of all relationships, your marriage.

Love in relationships is indeed a "decision”...not just a "feeling."

Love is a Gift

Love is a gift.

You should give it freely, for the sake of giving and not because you expect something in return. And realize that the act of loving is in itself a gift. The fact that we can love is the most amazing gift of all. And even if your love is not reciprocated, sent back to your doorstep like an unopened present, appreciate that you have within you the power, the ability, and the courage to love and that in itself make you truly human and special.

Somebody Misses You

Somebody misses your smile,
The hugs and the kisses you share,
The warmth in your heart,
The love in your eyes,
The way that you listen and care...

Somebody misses your laughter,
pleasuring kind and sincere,
The touch of your hand,
The sound of your voice,
The comfort of knowing you're near.

Somebody misses the magic
of wonderful things that you do,
The secrets you hold,
The thoughts you reveal,
The way you make dreams come true...

Somebody waits for tomorrow,
another day closer to when
the hoping is ended,
The wishing is over,
and this somebody holds you again.

- Jaden Kileeanne Morrison,USA

 

Love is not always about YOU

Solitude…
Agony…
Hate…

All these things, we endure when we give up the one person we truly cared about. Being alone was never really an option when we’re in love. The feeling or just the thought of being in love was probably the happiest and most unexplainable feeling in the world. Sometimes we do not know why we’re in love or why we love. Sometimes we can list down countless reasons why we love someone. But when the time comes that you have no choice but to give up, to let go… Will you? Can you? 

Most of us tend to be selfish when it comes to love. We only think of what can make us happy, what’s the best for us. But we’re wrong. Loving is not just about ourselves, it’s about the other person --- the person you care for, the person you trust, that one person who you always think of, the person who wakes you up in the morning with a smile, the person who kisses you without a warning, the person who brings you chocolates when you’re stressed at work, the person who hugs you after an argument, the person you’re proud having in your life, the most honest person you know, the person who can easily make you smile for not doing anything, the only person who calls you baby / honey / love (or what have you), the person you truly love.

Yes! It’s all about him.

When you love, it’s aptly to think about yourself first before getting into a relationship or even in getting out of one. But what if the person you love is already struggling fighting for it, for you, for your love, for his love for you. Would you still battle in his heart?

What if he cannot give you everything you ask for? 
 … Would that be enough for you?

What if he’s not happy anymore?

 … Would you still fight?

Would you let go to see him happy instead and lose the fight?

Would you? 
Can you??

Message from God

On this day of your life, Anna, we believe God wants you to know that when you feel down, look at yourself through God's eyes.

There are times when no matter how hard you try, you just cannot accept yourself as you are. During such times, think of how you look to God's eyes. In God's eyes, there is no judgment, there is only acceptance. God sees your light when all that you can see are your shadows. God loves you more than anyone could ever love you as you really are.

Final Step: Happiness

Being miserable is a choice. Today, I will choose to be happy.

Daily Talk

That feeling when you just wanna rant about how irritated you are to that same person in the office or how pissed you are with someone in the elevator or how good your food was or how excited you were with your boss' good news...

It's all gone now.